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THE BRADY BUNCH

THE BRADY BUNCH

"AND HE DETERMINED THE TIMES SET FOR THEM AND THE EXACT PLACES WHERE THEY SHOULD LIVE. GOD DID THIS SO THAT MEN WOULD SEEK HIM AND PERHAPS REACH OUT FOR HIM, THOUGH HE IS NOT FAR FROM EACH ONE OF US." ACTS 17:26&27

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Anger Management

Lately, I have been thinking about how we as humans deal with our anger. Since my boys are out into the world more and more I am beginning to see the need to help them learn how to appropriately deal with those frustrated and overwhelmed feelings that come out as anger.

Do we grow out of our temper tantrums or do we just change how they look? Do we become passive aggressive, calculating revenge, manipulating? Or do we stuff them down trying to ignore those feelings because they aren't Christ-like? In vain of course, because in the flesh it eventually finds a way out. Usually, when you really don't want it to and usually on the people you love the most. In an effort to avoid our adult temper tantrums people medicate their anger, try to drown it, or they might just eat it and everything else. In some of us anger fades into depression. Satan offers so many tempting choices for us to inappropriately deal with our anger. In your anger do not sin (Psalm 4:4 and Ephesians 4:26). Anger in itself is not a sin. We just need to deal with those God-given emotions in a God-glorifying manner.

I was thinking about my own anger issues and asked myself "What really gets me going?" "When do I loose my cool and why?" "Why do I get depressed?" Most of the time, it is when I feel controlled or when I can't control a situation. Simply put, things didn't go MY WAY. Which, go figure, are quite the same triggers for my boys. We want what we want. In the flesh, we are looking to please ourselves. The world sets us up to think we CAN have it our way. I don't want my children to fall into this trap. I so desire them to live a surrendered life. I know they have to see it in me first so, they will follow this blue print we are laying down in their little brains. It is a daily dying of self to accomplish this attainable goal.

The "good news" is... once I enter into a place where I realize I am not in control, ever! When I am reminded I am a servant of a sovereign God, a peace washes over me. His ways are not "my way," His ways are higher than mine. And I am glad I am not in control. I just need to ask Him to help me see things the way He see's them.

I hesitate to talk about our more personal struggles because I want to be a source of encouragement. Honestly, I think y'all probably get tired of hearing how great everything is. Everything isn't perfect it is just that I only seem to blog about the good, not the bad and the ugly. I feel like those of you checking in on us don't get the full picture. Just the carefully chosen cropped one.

6 comments:

Jeanine said...

Sweet friend, I love your heart. You have such wisdom to share! And, honestly, I needed this today...so glad God can use you in my life even from the middle of nowhere! you are a blessing.

anm said...

Interesting post... isn't it humbling to be 'working' on things in our children and then hear the Lord say, 'and what about you dear child?' to us. been there, many a time. way to go on the reality post!
love you like crazy!
'I raise my eyes toward the mountains, where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth"! Amen!

Andrea said...

Hi, Vicki. My name is Andrea and I went to high school with Brady. He passed on your blog link and I have enjoyed reading it! Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. That is what truly ministers to people I think. Your passion for the Lord comes through clearly in your words.

Sidenote, I also have a great respect and admiration for Beth Moore. I'm a little jealous you were able to see her live! :)

Blessings to you,
Andrea

Scott and Courtney Burlison said...

First of all...love what you've done with the blog...too cute! The kiddos are precious.

Second of all....how refreshing your honesty is. Thank you. Hugs to you all!

Kim said...

Hey Vicki! I found your blog through Brady's facebook page. It is so good to catch up with y'all! Like, I told Brady I can't get over how big the kids have gotten!
Here is a link to our blog so you can see what we've been up to...
http://tingletimes.blogspot.com/
Great "seeing" you! Kim

Dayma said...

Hey there... Brady & I went to school together in Seminole. I think your children are precious! I have been reading your postings and can really identify with this one. My kids and I are going through a tough transition in our lives and your words hit the nail on the head! Thanks for putting me back in check and helping me to consider some issues in my own life! You are so right when you say we are the "blue print" for our children. Your words made me want to be a better example / "blue print" for my kids!

Thank you!

You & Brady have a beautiful family!

Dayma